Do you ever wonder how the opposite sex thinks about life? In this episode Jimmy and Lori explore the approaches the opposite sex explores on various subjects of life. A fun and informative episode that may shed some light on your communication skills.
Episode Keys:
- How men and women approach various actions in life to gain similar results.
- Why understanding should be a skill gained by both men and women to build communication bridges to the other.
- When you should develop the baseline for communication in a relationship and what to do when it is broken.
- Who possesses a depth of ownership in the relationship when disruption or distraction arises?
Podcast Transcript
JW:
Oh, how I have been waiting for this episode, folks listening on Live a Life By Design all across the world today, Lori Few, my co-host with the most. Good morning, Lori!
LF:
Good morning!
JW:
Is going to help me understand a subject matter that has given man quandaries since the founding of time. Yes, folks, you guessed it. We’re gonna talk about how men and women think differently on various subject matters, of which I have not informed Lori of any of these subjects. She’s flying blind, she’s in an ensconced booth back somewhere behind the studio, munching on a Slim Jim wearing a headphones. So she can’t tell what I’m saying. And if Slim Jims aren’t good for you, we’ll find something else. Beef jerky, whatever it takes. Lori, I was gonna-
LF:
That’s not, that’s not my snack. Go-To snack of choice.
JW:
But it just sounds good. Slim Jim. That’s kind of what I’m looking for people to say to me, Hey, slim Jim. But anyway, , I, I’ve got a ways to go too, Lori on that. So, so, but my point here today is folks, is we do think differently. I think when God made man and then made woman, I think he said, Hey, let’s see how much fun we can have getting these two being to try to understand one another in life. And so Lori and I, for those of you that are new to our podcast, are just ecstatic that you’re joining us today. And I hope that if you’re driving your car and we get you some laughing so hard, it causes you to have a, a lapse of good judgment, please pull over and rest your car on the side of the road, so we don’t cause any kind of accident.
JW:
So as you’re listening to this do take in mind that Lori and I are just best buddies and she is a wonderful, wonderful lady and I have a lot of respect for her. But I’m gonna ask the hard questions, folks, because here on Live a Life By Design, we don’t cage any of these answers. We’re gonna ask the pure hard facts as in our questions. And Lori is gonna give us her honest opinions. So let’s just get this started. Lori, let’s see if you can start with a softball que-
LF:
Oh my goodness, this is gonna be dangerous.
JW:
No, no, no. You’re gonna get a softball question first to start with. What is it – are you ready? What is it with women and the TV remote that differ from men?
LF:
Listen, I, oh, the TV remote. So first of all, I, women have a tendency to know where everything is. Like that’s just, I don’t know. I don’t know how we know. I don’t know how we, I don’t know how it comes to pass. I don’t know if it’s a rite of passage, if it’s an age thing or relationship thing, but, you know, women traditionally can put their hands on anything. Like, ask me where it is. I know where it is. The remote is the same way. So we know where it is. We know how it works. We know that the batteries need to be changed. We know how to locate said remote now because everything has a pinging or a location device on it. So the remote is no different. I, I do not understand. My husband will take the remote and walk into different locations outside of where that TV remote goes with that television and then wonder where it is or why he can’t find it. And I, it’s not just the remote. It’s a lot of things. It’s keys, it’s wallets, it’s remotes, it’s shoes, it’s bags, I mean it, you name it, it, it’s almost like we have our own, you know, iPhones have the Find My iPhone. You don’t need that. You just need a woman.
JW:
Now this is gonna come out really wrong. When I draw this analogy out, Lori, I say women are the bats of all these things we need to find. They have a radar sense. They can send this radar sense out. It bounces off the remote or the car keys that aren’t where they’re supposed to be. I will ask you this though. Have you ever once ask your beloved husband, husband, Justin, did we put a TV in the water closet area of our bathroom? And I’m saying water closet, just more fancy way of saying toilet area. But the water closet because the remote’s on the back of the tank. I mean, why is the remote in the bathroom? Right? And I gotta be honest with you, , that happened once in, in our home. And I won’t tell you who took it in there, but I will tell you, Jimmy Lysol, that thing like crazy, I mean, I’m just not gonna take No, I bet you can’t go to the restroom with the remote and expect me to handle it with kid gloves as I did before.
JW:
Right. I just gotta get sprayed off. So, okay, you answered that one pretty well. I, I’m gonna give you that I, for some reason, my wife has this beacon that she can sense things that are out of place cuz we put everything in its place. And like if the car keys aren’t exactly in the drawer, we have a drawer. Soon as you walk in the back door from the garage drawer, boom, keys go in it. If the keys aren’t there, then it’s an immediate woo woo. This alarm thing goes off like Star Trek under some kind of attack. And she starts this hunt as if blood hands could find these keys. I’m telling you, Lori, she is all over this house and all the nooks crannies and everything else. And then I get the speech. Do you give Justin the speech?
LF:
Oh, we have multiple speeches at my house.
JW:
Oh yeah. So the speech is, let me once again go through the standard operating procedures for keys storage. Jimmy, when you come in, Yes honey, I was, no, there can be no excuse.
LF:
There’s a method to the madness.
JW:
There can be no excuse.
LF:
There is a method to the madness, but I have to digress about the keys. You know. So now most newer cars don’t have keys. They have a key bob, right? Which are very expensive. I learned that the hard way. So my husband was outta town and I had gone to do just a night with some girls and we were out and about and I came in and I had been out working in the yard and I had jumped outta the car while I put my key fob in my little athletic shorts. And for those of you that understand athletic shorts, sometimes now the fancy ones have a little hidden pocket, like on the inside or like a little zipper. Well, I… Needless to say it fell out.
JW:
You didn’t zip it in the little pocket, apparently. Oh, it fell out. You crushed, you flushed it. Oh Lord. Flushed it.
LF:
And before I realized what was happening, it was gone. And I thought, what am I going to do? I, okay, but typical, my husband is very prepared. I absolutely love that about him. He has said, key fob backup, second key fob inside our little storm shelter, which is in our basement. I mean we, we had a storm shelter put in like our garage floor. So we kind of call it the basement. The only problem to that is the car is parked on top of the door in the garage floor. So I cannot figure out how to get in there to get my second key. So I call my tiny skinny little friend and we shimmy her down in there and she digs around and she finds the second key so that I am rescued because again, my husband’s outta town-
JW:
Is there video? Is there a video of this? Cause I would love to see that.
LF:
There’s video.
JW:
Oh boy.
LF:
You betcha there’s video.
JW:
Folks be looking on livealifeby.design – the website. We’re gonna have this video posted here for before long. That would be hilarious.
LF:
The whole story short of that is my husband being the genius that he is, he comes home and he take a couple of days later, mind you, he comes home, he takes the toilet off of the base or the ring or whatever it is. And lo and behold, my key fob is wedged into this drain. And I told, I told him, I said, I would’ve sworn that I had flushed it to the, you know, water treatment facility. It was gone. He rescues it, takes it out, puts it in a bag of rice, leaves it for a couple of days and gives me the speech about, first of all, don’t ever do that. Second of all, do you know how expensive these are? And third, it works. And so I am not the person to talk to about keys. I don’t have a good track record at all.
JW:
So a couple of follow up questions, if I may. Mis few. First of all, the little shorts, were they Lululemons? Cuz you know, those are the best.
LF:
Yeah. Yeah.
JW:
Okay. So they do have a hidden pocket with a zipper on it. No less. A zipper. Some of ’em don’t have a zipper, but yours may not have. My point I’m making here is, were you out drinking that evening and had a little bit of wine? Be honest, you’re on Live a Life By Design. Yes. You were. Were you inebriated at the time?
LF:
Not prior to.
JW:
Okay. Okay. Afterwards, you probably needed a drink. I get that. Oh boy Lori. And I’ve not ever flushed a key. I don’t know how that works. Now my daughters have baptized some iPhones. We’ve done that. Oh, by the way, never done that. Never done that back pocket situation. I won’t go into details for the ladies, but anyway, you understand how that works. Gravity, if you will. Yeah. So, so let me ask you a couple of quick questions about this. What is it about women that when they go into a shopping area, let’s just assume it’s the mall. Why is it that you ladies can go shopping and go into 12 to 14 different stores in a 12 hour period and come back to the first or second store and then make your purchase? Yeah, I know. Why couldn’t we have done that? Start with, you know, that’s-
LF:
Well, cause you just in your mind we always, and I think that’s, you know, trust your gut. You know, we, we talk about that a lot. Like go with your gut, go with your first instinct. Always, you know, come back to what you know. But I think it’s the thrill of if I don’t go look, I don’t know what I’m missing. Yes. And so, yes, you’ll go into that first store cuz it’s your favorite and it has all the things that you love and you know what you’re looking for. And yes, you’re gonna find it. But it’s what do they call it? Fomo. Fear of missing out. Yes. Yes. So that’s why we go Well and you know, you know, know could be a, a better bargain could be a better deal. If most women are like me, we’re always looking for a better deal. We always wanna make sure that we’re paying the best possible price. Especially if it’s something you’re gonna invest in like a bag or shoes or, you know, every girl has to have a black dress in her wardrobe. And so you wanna make sure that you’re making that first investment. But yeah, I about store six at this juncture in my life and my age category, I’m done. But I can remember hours and hours and hours of shopping.
JW:
If you only hit six stores, I’m gonna be honest with you, I told ’em to put you in the feather weight category. I’ve, I’ve got two daughters that can hit 14 or 15 before they make a decision at the store. Number two is the one they should have bought. But anyway, we should have gone back. Yeah, gotta go back. I gotta ask you though, now, and I’m just picking on you a little bit as a female. So you’re representing the entire female section of the world here. Here it goes.
LF:
No pressure.
JW:
Why don’t you buy a wallet like a wristlet? I believe my daughter calls it a wristlet. Is that such a thing? Wristlet? Mm-Hmm. . Yeah. Absolutely. Why don’t you buy a wristlet that matches your spouse or significant other’s shoes? Because I always end up having to carry it while she shops.
LF:
That’s intentional.
JW:
Yeah. Okay. Well, okay.
LF:
No, that’s that . No, I don’t that It’s so funny. It’s so true. Most of the time, you know, when you buy a wristlet and we, we think, we always think, I’m just gonna get this small. I don’t need a very big bag. I don’t need a big purse. And then you cram as much stuff as you can into it. And then at some point during the trip or the date or the night out or whatever, you’re always like, here, can you hold this?
JW:
And it’s always, and it never zip zips. You can’t zip it. Cause you ladies put so much stuff in this little thing, . Now let me ask you this. It, it’s true. Have you ever witnessed the shame? It’s called the bench of shame in the mall. That’s the benches. They sit in the middle between the two stores on either side. Mm-Hmm. where the spouses are significant, others are in there enjoying themselves. And we men are out here holding the purses Yep. Of our spouses . And we’re just sitting there trying not to make any eye contact. We then look at one of our fellow homo sapiens and we go you too? And yeah-
LF:
It’s an unspoken language.
JW:
It really is. And I gotta be honest with you, it’s a very uncomfortable feeling for a man’s masculinity to be caught with one of these little wristlets, which looks very feminine anyway to start with. And, you know, why couldn’t we maybe get you ladies a billfold, you know, like we carry.
LF:
Yeah. Those are just no, those are, I dunno, the, the pockets and like trying to get it to fit. And the foldy thing.
JW:
I don’t have get the lipstick. That little change holder. Yeah. I don’t know what that’s all about. Right? Yeah.
LF:
Okay. Yeah. No, no, no, no, no.
JW:
Okay. Now have you ever, and I’m just asking this, have you ever sent your husband to the store without you to buy certain anything item that would embarrass said, man, not going into detail here, but have you ever done that? You’ve not-
LF:
No. Okay. No, because I mean, well, no, no. Okay. I, I don’t-
JW:
Well, the reason I’m asking is –
LF:
I’ve sent Justin for things…
JW:
Yeah?
LF:
Well it’s arts and crafts are probably the worst thing I’ve sent him to buy. Just because he doesn’t, he’s, he’s like, why am I buying glitter and poster board and glue sticks?
JW:
That’s, that’s where I’m headed. You were going the wrong direction. You thought I was trying to do something else of a personal nature that No, my wife sent me down to get things for our daughter when she was younger. Gabrielle had a little party and I’m supposed to go down into the arts and crafts area and I’m supposed to buy ribbon and I’m supposed to buy glitter. And, and I said, Hey, seriously babe, I, no, I mean, I don’t even know what to look for. I, I, my days are gone. That was vacation Bible school when I was like four. Yeah. You know what I’m saying? Anyway, said, you gotta go honey. I’ve got these girls here and you don’t need to stay here with these girls cuz now they’re getting ready to do baking. And I say, yep, I’m outta here. So she gives me this list and I’m literally down to the local, what we call the mall, actually it’s a Walmart in our little community. Mm-Hmm. . And I gotta tell you, the lady looking at me kinda gave me this look like, you know, you’re six two, you weigh about two 30, why are you over here doing arts and crafts kind of thing. You know, it kinda embarrassed me a little bit . And so it got worse at the checkout counter cuz then the little girl there was like, you know, my daughter’s age maybe she might have been 20 at the time the, the older daughter’s age. And, and so I’m sitting there going, Hmm, I can explain yeah. I, the men and I getting ready to do do your arts and crash. Right. They look at you kinda like, then they glance down at your products you got down there. It’s kinda like, it’s judgment. Is it not judgment?
LF:
Yeah. Yeah. It’s a little judgy, for sure.
JW:
For sure. Yeah. So, and so that’s why I never allow myself after that one lesson learned, one trip, one lesson, I got it. I just tell my wife, you know, either you prep for the party or the kids are gonna do with that. Cause I’m not going back to be the judgment guy at the store with all the glitter and all this stuff. I mean, it’s ridiculous. Right? Yeah.
LF:
And well, and I’m, I’m a little bit guilty of that because I, I, I have sent Justin for specific things like colored paper. Yeah. Oh, there you go. Not that we have a lot to choose from, but, you know, multicolored paper and he comes home and it’s like, no, but these are pastels I wanted bold. Yeah. And he’s like, you didn’t say that. You just said colored paper.
JW:
Yeah. Yeah. And you know, that’s another thing I don’t think women explain to men. Now, one thing I will tell you, we men take directions very well, but it has to be specific targeted directional words. Right. That’s true. So my wife, when my wife says, and here we go, I’m just gonna lay this out there for you. When my wife says, oh honey, you need to pick up some toilet tissue on your way home. Oh sure, no problem. Well, when I go get it, when I get home, I have these three girls looking at what I had just brought home and staring at me with flames coming outta their eyes, going, do you realize what you’ve bought? And I said, yes, I bought toilet tissue, which was what your mother asked.No dad, you didn’t buy X, Y, Z, triple-ply softer than cotton, whatever you bought John Wayne, toilet tissue, you know.
LF:
John Wayne?
JW:
Yeah. But I said it’s 50 rolls for a buck. What more could we ask for? I mean, this is great stuff.
LF:
Right? That is, that is a total man mentality right there.
JW:
And I bought soap one time. The most part, the most big for your buck soap. Yeah. I bought soap. You grows a palm olive, it’s good for the skin, 90% oil, whatever. Yeah. So I go and buy the soap one time. And that was it for that soap thing I bought oh, what was it? It’s that green stripe kind in it that has, you know, it’s, it’s good enough for a woman, but made for a man kinda soap . I spring, ooh, I spring. So I bought the, I spring home. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Let me tell you why I bought it though. Lori, this is funny. It was a four pack on sale . And I thought we only have three bathrooms. I get an extra one. Right? And so three shower. And so I brought it home and I get that painful look of you’ve screwed it up again. Jimbo from each of the three ladies in my world, gone. You expect us to bathe to that? And I said, of course I do. Soap is soap. Oh no. Then I got sat on the couch, I got the dissertation. And also I had to sit and listen to it and write a, a two-page paper why women can’t use that soap. But anyway, it wasn’t that bad.
LF:
But you learned the morals of that story is, is that you absolutely will never, ever, ever buy that again for your girls.
JW:
I did. I Now for you.
LF:
Totally acceptable.
JW:
Now, you know, I gotta tell you another thing. Women are much more classy when it comes to medical procedures than we men. I’m just gonna give it up to you ladies. You guys have a, a keen presence of knowing when you are going to expose yourself to people that are in the medical profession. And men just don’t really keep that close of an eye on things. And I think on the podcast, if you recall, I had to go in for a little procedure. You get at age 50 if you’re a man in this country. And I was bending over to put my civilian clothes in a, a nice garment bag to take home and or use for later or whatever. But they, this lady opens this curtain up and it’s a young 25 year old looking rn and she’s just a beautiful young lady. And, and my wife screams Jimmy and I sensed that I showed more of myself than I cared to for this young lady.
JW:
Why is it you ladies have the presence of mind to know, you know, not to do things like that? Why is it, I don’t
LF:
Know. You know, I think it’s a, it it’s probably, again, it’s another one of those innate things just we are in, I don’t know, maybe we’re, I don’t, what is that commercial? Maybe she’s born with it. Maybe it’s Maybelline, I don’t know that, that’s probably some of it too. But I’ll tell you, I I am the, ugh. It’s, I don’t handle anesthetic very well or being put to sleep for any type of thing. I will never forget having my wisdom teeth taken out. And this was early on in our marriage and I, you know, at 23, 24, I had not had very many medical procedures at that time. And Justin vi vividly remembers telling the story that he tried to help me come up this steps on our porch. I turned around and jerked my arm away from him and said, don’t touch me. And then he said he was trying to help me get into the house to get into bed, to go back to sleep, to sleep it off. And I, he said, you looked at me and you said, I don’t need a man. Don’t touch me . And he said, the next thing I know you were past smooth out. And he said, you woke up a better, like more happy person. He said, no, that I don’t wanna be around when you have to go out like that cuz you, he said, you’re mean.
JW:
So folks, I don’t know. And I remember nothing. You can see Lori’s photo on the website. She’s an angelic young lady until she’s under some kind of drug that she becomes mean girl or something. , you don’t need a man. Yeah. Give me a break. I’ll tell you that’s mean boy. Yeah, yeah.
LF:
Well evidently it was mean very mean. Goodness. I know. But I, you know, I think innately women are, we’re we’re caregivers by nature. And so, so think so that’s probably, you know, we, we work so hard whether we try to or not, almost to a fault that, you know, we’re asking the medical professionals now, are you okay? Do you need anything? Is everything going to be okay? I mean, you know, we’re just, even if it’s for ourselves. You, you know, we’re, we’re just worried about making sure that everybody else is okay.
JW:
These women today are just so tough all over the world. Every woman I know, I just have great respect for ’em. When it comes to childbearing, they’re in the hospital, the kids on its way out, and they’re worried about the nurse and the doctor. Hey, you’re sweating a little doc, you okay? You need a drink? Something going on. I mean, come on Lori. I mean, you’re in the middle of something giving life to some being here and you’re worried about everybody else, right? Yeah, yeah. You’re tough, tough birds, I’ll tell you.
LF:
Naturally, you’re just worried.
JW:
I gotta tell you, what is it to about this? So you guys are just, you know, and Nate with toughness in my opinion and certain things. But then at other times, you can be as delicate as a new flower. And what I’m talking about is if it comes to one of our daughters, my wife is the mama bear kind of speak tough woman. She’ll take care of ’em, get ’em. If there’s blood all over the place mm-hmm. She gets it and takes care of it. If my wife’s got an issue, stubs the toe, blood comes out. Nope. Not having it, not, can’t do it, can’t do . And I’m having to bandage it up, take care of her. To case point, last week we were in we were in some vacation in a, a very nice resort area. And she fell down late at night and had an incident.
JW:
And this incident was not good at all. Oh, she busted her face, busted her lip. Oh, broke her wrist. Knees are all busted up. Ribs are sore anyway, had to be taken to the emergency room. She’s gonna have surgery here in a few days. But anyway, my point I’m making is she doesn’t do well with that. But if it’s one of our children, she’s like, superwoman. It’s, it’s incredible. It doesn’t bother her. My question to you is though is I was then questioned as to why I wasn’t all stressed out by one of my daughters. My older daughter said, dad, I just don’t understand why you’re not all stressed out. Look at mom. Is she gonna be okay? And I said, look, I don’t get upset until I know the facts. And so I said, as a man, generally what I do is I go, okay, everybody’s gotta be calm till I can get her taken care of, stabilized. And then we’d look at it and go, mm-hmm , whew. Okay, what’s the next step here? And how bad is this? And you know, it’s just one of those things that’s just kinda how men are wired versus some of the women, not all of them, you know.
LF:
Let me tell you that, you know, there’s a reason why relationships work and, and that’s probably a huge reason why your relationship works, because that is exactly how you need to be in that moment. And that’s how you should respond. I, I can vividly remember when we , this is so embarrassing. I can vividly remember when our son was young. He was probably less than two. We were home in the house and it was about the age where he was, you know, young enough to talk, but not full on sentences or in communication, right? But just enough. And Justin had been outside working the yard. I’d been in the house and I couldn’t find him. And so at that point, Justin had moved from yard work up into the attic in our garage. And I went out and if, and a full blown panic.
LF:
And I said, have you seen Noah? And he said, what? Are you kidding me? I’m in the attic. No. And I, he said, what’s going on? I said, well, I’ve lost him. And he said, what you, what? And I thought, okay, this is not good. So he comes down and he’s, you know, he’s got his self collected and he looks at me and he says, okay, did you go here? I’m like, yes. Did you go in the backyard? Yes. Did you call for him? Yes. Did you go outside? Yes. Now I, I am running around like a crazy person yelling his name, screaming like, oh my gosh, okay, we need to call the police. And my husband the entire time is just being so calm and so cool and collected and he is just talking to me in the calmest voice and I am just hysterical.
LF:
And finally he has the house and he opens the door and Noah is sitting in the closet playing with his iPad quietly, just all by himself. And he had probably been there the whole time and I probably had seen him at some point, but I was so hysterical that I just didn’t see him. And I just remember him grabbing me by the shoulders and turning me about face and saying, woman, you have got to calm down . Yeah. And I think in that moment, and again, early on in our parenting years, he’s, he’s a teenager now. But looking at that going, I married the right guy. Like he is who I need him to be when I am out of sorts. And I am not a capable of making, you know, these life altering decisions about, I think I’ve just lost my child. So he probably also que questioned my parenting abilities at that point, thinking what in the world?
LF:
I’ll never leave her home alone with the kid ever again. But again, for Dina, it’s that whole at what, whatever point she needed to be vulnerable. You had it together, you were the rock, you were the one assessing the situation and making the calls that needed to be made. And then, you know what I find, and I I, my husband is probably one of the strongest people I know, Jimmy, you are as well. You have those quiet moments where you let yourself have that moment, but you never let anyone see it. He’s such that calm, cool, and collected person.
JW:
Yeah. That, that’s just always been the way I handled it. Just because I had to, I had to say, okay, somebody’s gotta stay in charge of their faculties here to make sure that we get this under control and make sure we know where everyone is. Right. you know, our children are so, so hard to replace, if you will. Well, you can’t replace ’em, lemme say the irreplaceable, but I’m just saying they’re so connected to our hearts. Boy, if something goes wrong, it just kills my wife. You know what if they get hurt in any way? And I’m just like, okay, well let me scoop her up in the scare to the emergency room. I’m sure it’s gonna be all right. And I get there, well after about, you know, we got her home and she’s sedated or whatever. And you look at it and you go to your privacy room and you take your journal and you go, Hey man, I’ve got to get this off my head. It is driving me nuts. But let me ask you one last question as we close this out. You’ve done very good so far answering this. I have a greater understanding of the women now, but I’ve only been married 36 years of September, so I’m trying to get this down. I’ll eventually get it down. My next question is a toughie. And, and here it’s, and-
LF:
Eventually you’ll get it down
JW:
What I hope. So what is it about money, okay. That women think so differently than men. My wife will give her last dime to our children if there’s a need they say they need, even though they don’t have a need to have a want. What is it about you ladies that will give the literal shirt off your back to your kiddos? And the men, you can try to see us and I’ll say something like, Hey listen, you got enough money on your debit card, you make it last. You, if you run out on Thursday, I’m sorry you’re gonna be out until next Saturday. Right. That’s just how this works. Why is it you ladies kind of, I don’t know, go that route of just full all out sacrifice?
LF:
You know, I don’t know that, I don’t know that that’s a man or a woman thing. I think that’s a, a human nature thing. Honestly, I think that there are different things that people would stop everything to, you know, it just depends on what it is that that triggers your mind or your heart or your soul to believe that this is the moment where I just need to throw all caution to the wind and be 150% in, or give 150% of myself or my time or my money or my energy or my effort. You know? So I think that’s a human nature thing. I think men do it. They do it differently than women do it. Women do it. We, you know, for, for whatever reason. It could be something to do with their kids. It could be something to do with their best friend.
LF:
It could be a family member, it could be a community member, it could be a organization, it could be, you know, a workplace environment. You know, I, I really think that that’s, it’s a human nature issue. It’s a situational issue and you know, what triggers someone to be that selfless is gonna be different than the next person. But I think that’s what makes it so cool to live in the world that we live in, is that everybody’s different and everybody has different scenarios and everybody has different passions and interests and things that they’re willing to just drop everything. And then there are, there are also things that people are very hardlined about. Like, nope, I will not spend over my debit card limit. Or no, I will not eat that extra donut. I do not have that kind of well, I don’t know what the word is.
LF:
I don’t have that kind of willpower. Like I am the very much of the giving type. Like I, you know, we’ve talked a lot about, Lori has to learn how to say no, I’m better about it, but if it’s something that I’m truly interested in, like I’m gonna go 110% in like, if it’s something I’m truly passionate about and, you know, our kids and our family should always be that way to us, to a certain extent, depending on what it is that they’re asking for. But I, I just, I don’t know, I don’t know that that’s a man or a woman thing. I think that’s an everybody thing, a human nature element to all of that.
JW:
That could be just a parental thing. How about that?
LF:
Yeah. I definitely think, listen, I knew that I could, my dad was the softie. My mom was the hardliner. Like no. Oh no. Wow. Not happening. And so it, it’s it’s, it’s interesting. I think it’s a dynamic. I I, it’s funny cuz when you only have one child, you get into this scenario when they get a little bit older, who’s your favorite? Who’s your favorite? Who’s your favorite? Me or your dad? Your mom or your dad. And Noah has always, always said, well, after he started learning about world history, he decided he would tell us that he was Switzerland. He was neutral.
JW:
Oh, there you go. Good, good boy. Smart man. I will tell you, he, he’s m smarter beyond his age. I can assure you that. Yes. . Well, Lori, you have opened my eyes today. I do have a greater understanding. I of course understand my wife, but now all women are a little unique to each other, I think. And the shopping thing I think you did was very similar to what my, my wife and daughters do. But I will say this to you. Should I ever need to get a hold of you and need you to drive me anywhere, I’ll probably ask, do you have the pocket zipped on the shorts before you come over here? So I’m gonna . Oh mercy. No
LF:
Kidding
JW:
Folks. I’m not going to dig. Listen, I’m diving in the toilet
LF:
As an Uber driver. I’ll never make it as a chauffeur.
JW:
I’m not diving in the toilet. Lori, to get you key fob that about your,
LF:
I mean this. Yeah, this is how it is. Like,
JW:
Don’t trust me to get you. I give, I’m going on record. I would give Lori a kidney, but I’m not gonna stick my hand the toilet to go get the key fob there. I draw the line there. Okay, Lori, close this out.
LF:
Well this week if you’ve learned anything, there’s a difference between men and women. But for the most part, we’re the same. We’re the same people walking the planet trying to make every day count in this life. Life is short laugh, have fun, embrace the differences and be willing to have those fun conversations with the opposite sex. So if you’ve not learned anything, you’ve learned how to laugh this morning and we appreciate everyone listening and go out and have a great week. Who knows what we’ll come up with on the next episode, but we hope you’ll tune in to listen here on Live a Life By Design!
JW:
Hey Lori, I got a great one. If you talk about laughter between male and female, you should have been on our honeymoon anyway. I’ll leave it with that. My bathing suit. Let’s just say leopard skin thong speedos were in style in 1987.
LF:
Oh my word. What a thought. What a visual.
JW:
Folks, you gotta tune in next week. You don’t know where this podcast is going. Thank you everyone for listening to Live a Life By Design. Go out and make the world a better place, one person at a time. We’ll see you next week.
